The 'Rape' Fantasy

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Interesting to see women respond to this Dolce & Gabana ad on ONTD.



See, I'm... I'm funny on this issue. I think it's okay for women to have their fantasies. But there's a distinct list of things that I do not fantasise about, that I never will and find extremely disturbing. Those are:

- Abuse
- Rape
- Incest
- Myself being dominated.

Now, maybe it's been my upbringing with my overbearing father making me buck any sort of authority figure or dominance (armchair psychology ahoy) or the fact that I've been brought up by my staunch feminist of a mother, but nothing turns me off more than a male seeking dominance or control. There has only ever been ONE situation where being overpowered by a man in a sexual situation didn't bother me, and that's because I implicitly trusted the man and I knew that he'd rather poke out his own eyeballs than hurt me (or any living thing for that matter). And it was playful anyhow.

I don't *like* being vulnerable. I don't like being reminded of being vulnerable. When I'm naked and in bed with someone, I'd prefer to feel empowered. Not in the sense that I dominate over the other partner - I couldn't stand that. I like two people being intensely excited by the other just being there and the power is in what they do to each other.


Am I nuts? Crazy? Unusual? Let me know what you think.

Comments

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FWIW - I understand and respect people that have submissive (or dominance) fantasies, and have quite a few friends who (either recreationally or professionally) are into acting those fantasies, and I have no problem with it. Fantasy is fantasy, most people are smart enough to tell the difference - and a lot of the time, peoples sexual fantasies are about acting the opposite to the way they do in general life. Its a cliche but its true that many (not all) people who are into subbing are people with important, dominant jobs, and many doms are people with strong personalities but who do not feel empowered with their life situation.

And I can sometimes see the sexual attraction myself, though not always.

But really, I'm with you, engaging with someone sexually as an equal is far more exciting to me. A bit of playful back and forth is great, but a willing and enthusiastic equal much better than a slave or a master.