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The thing I'm suffering from right now, that I was never warned of in sex education in school... is a sore and cramping rectum.
Yep, you read right. My back passage is enjoying the sharp jabbing twinges that like to take place when Aunt Irma comes to visit. It is an awful, awful pain.
They also don't tell you about the pad flipping or pulling together as you're lifting up your knickers and bonding sticky-side up to your pubic hair. Now that - that smarts.
They don't tell you about the copious amounts of blood. I mean, they tell you how much you lose in millilitres but that's just a measurement isn't it? It's abstract. It's not looking down and seeing all that bloody red in the toilet bowl. You get used to it after a while, I guess. But for women like me, whose periods are subject to changing hormone levels and so forth, sometimes it still comes as a bit of a shock.
They don't tell you how often you have to change your pads. It's just not something you think about. They also don't tell you the shame and embarrassment that comes with any sign that you have your periods. Like, a tampon falling out of your purse. Or someone noticing you're taking a pamprin or something. Me, I battle that stigma. I don't really have a choice, thanks to having endo. I *have* to say "Sorry, I can't go to that party. I'm going to be having my period." Or "Sorry, can't work. I have my period." It kinda makes me mad that the one thing that's made it possible for humans to pretty much reproduce at will, that's lead to our incredible success as a species is one of the things we're most ashamed of.
Periods aren't pretty. There's a lot I haven't mentioned but I think I covered the things that surprised me the most when I finally became fertile, as it were.
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Date: 2008-06-24 01:27 pm (UTC)Man that stings.
Gosh I remember when I first got my period when I was just 12 (just before I finished Junior School) and my first reaction when I wiped? "Yuk!" Then "Oh." It was revolting. I'm still revolted by the whole process. I've been having a bit of an interesting year in regards to my cycle that I'm finding it hard (but not really, just .. "interesting" again) to cope with all the differences. I'm really hating being a girl (that that time of the month) this year. I've also gone off the pill (not on choice) for the last 6 weeks, and I got a second period in a month (two weeks after I stopped). MAN that was a lot of blood. Yuk. It'll be like this again in about a week or so, and I'm just not looking forward to it at all. Blah.
I get bad rectal pain too, but more often than not if I try and move my bowels when I've got my period. To the point that I often wait a day or so (not much for me, I've got a terrible bowel).
(This is a bit TMI, huh.) Isn't funny that they say "Oh you only lose about a tablespoon or two." FUCK OFF. Sorry, but there are days when I lose at least that in the morning. I'm not about to bloody measure it though.
I'm going to stop now. ;)
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Date: 2008-06-24 01:44 pm (UTC)I remember the first cold sweat I had when I saw all that blood!! It was weird because before the period started I felt weak and dizzy and couldn't figure out why. What a horrible surprise it was!
It amazes me that all we go through is just kept quiet, it's "women's business". If men went through what we went through, we'd never hear the end of it. There'd be statues erected to people who had periods that lasted longer than a week! *laughs* Knowing men, if they had periods they'd probably have bleeding competitions! *laughs*
For every person that belittles the period, I wish I could just let them know, for a few seconds, the pain and discomfort some of us go through. Particularly those really snarky bitches that have light periods and think they know it all. They piss me off the most.
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Date: 2008-06-24 02:02 pm (UTC)HAhahahaha - OMG we would NEVER hear the end of it if Men had to go through periods. Far out - NEVER EVER.
I've gone through years of light periods though. It's just been this year that my body's gone "Well, we think you've had enough of a light flow." THANKS UTERUS. I can't wait to get back on the pill, since that actually helps me out. Lowers my cramping and blood flow (although not as much as it used to) and mood swings. (And face breakouts - yuk)
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Date: 2008-06-25 01:52 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-06-25 11:16 am (UTC)I don't have a high opinion of male practitioners in the field of women's health.
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Date: 2008-06-25 11:46 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-06-25 11:01 am (UTC)It was a man who told you that, right?
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Date: 2008-06-25 11:37 am (UTC)And no it wasn't. It was a doctor.
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Date: 2008-06-25 02:38 pm (UTC)course when I wanna have kids I'll probably have to wait another 5yrs after stopping the drugs to be fertile again, but meh, get there when I get there.
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Date: 2008-06-25 02:40 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-06-25 02:46 pm (UTC)1/3 lose their period completely, 1/3 have continual spotting, 1/3 have normal periods (with the same benefits as the pill of lighter/less painfull).
of course you still have the stack on a tonne of weight thing, which sucks, but hey, I don't have to remember to take a tiny pill every single day (hence why I changed, coz I kept forgetting, and this was prior to the discovering thyroid issues have to take a little pill everyday for the rest of my life thing)
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Date: 2008-06-25 02:49 pm (UTC)(I suck at taking the pill every day)
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depo_Provera)
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Date: 2008-06-25 11:29 pm (UTC)the FDA has also banned vegemite because it has folate and "folate is bad for you"
I'm pretty sure it has the same bad things as any contraceptive. my doctors have no issue with me taking it so i dont eitther.
the pill gave me noticable weight gain too.
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Date: 2008-06-26 01:16 am (UTC)Gees. I love vegemite. They can get stuffed. LOL
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Date: 2008-06-26 09:31 am (UTC)second time on the pill when I was 18 I stacked it on majorly, about 5kg, and when I swapped from the pill to depo I gained about 2kg. of course those weight gains could have easily been attributed to the stressfull things going on in my life at both of those times.
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Date: 2008-06-25 02:44 pm (UTC)OH MY GOD why isn't this a more widely used contraceptive?!?!? Why isn't this offered?? I've never had this offered! Then again, I've only talked to a doctor once about alternative forms of contraception, and this definitely wasn't on the cards!
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Date: 2008-06-24 01:48 pm (UTC)But the boy somehow fixed it. I can't explain it better than that, but it's like being with him and all my hormones balanced themselves out. I even lost 6 lbs the week we were together. XP
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Date: 2008-06-24 01:56 pm (UTC)There was this one time that my period hit the same time I was involved in a final clean of a place I was moving out of. That particular period I got terrible, terrible cramps - probably due to all the stress I was going through with the move - and the painkillers just didn't work. I had no access to a hot water bottle and the only way I could cope was to lie down with my legs up against the wall.
You should have seen the filthy looks I got from some of the ex-housemates. They thought I was faking it to get out of the work... never mind that I'd been doing a big chunk of the housework (ESPECIALLY at inspection time) because of other housemates' illnesses. Oh no, period cramps didn't count for them.
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Date: 2008-06-24 02:01 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-06-24 02:04 pm (UTC)AND you can get them in awesome patterns!
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Date: 2008-06-25 11:48 am (UTC)I am going the Mirena route. Stop the fuckers so I don't have to guddle about anymore.
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Date: 2008-06-24 03:18 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-06-24 10:33 pm (UTC)As someone who has literally /just/ (yesterday) taught the sex/health ed lesson on Periods, I have to say that I was impressed that our curriculum (I work in a Catholic school, and as a non-Catholic I stick to the booklet to the letter so as not to screw up with what I'm allowed/not allowed to say) /does/ have a section on sensitivity/embarrassment. Dismayed at the rest of it, but that part - yeah. I was impressed.
We have a video to watch, and part of it shows a girl going to get something from her bag, and her box of pads falling to the floor. A passing boy bends down to pick it up - freeze frame - discuss.
The discussion in my classroom was quite grown up and sensitive - I was impressed at that too, with the children I have it could have been a lot different.
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Date: 2008-06-25 12:40 am (UTC)I remember learning about TSS when I was about 13 by reading the leaflet in the box of tampons mum kept in the loo...
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