The 'Rape' Fantasy
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logansrogueInteresting to see women respond to this Dolce & Gabana ad on ONTD.
See, I'm... I'm funny on this issue. I think it's okay for women to have their fantasies. But there's a distinct list of things that I do not fantasise about, that I never will and find extremely disturbing. Those are:
- Abuse
- Rape
- Incest
- Myself being dominated.
Now, maybe it's been my upbringing with my overbearing father making me buck any sort of authority figure or dominance (armchair psychology ahoy) or the fact that I've been brought up by my staunch feminist of a mother, but nothing turns me off more than a male seeking dominance or control. There has only ever been ONE situation where being overpowered by a man in a sexual situation didn't bother me, and that's because I implicitly trusted the man and I knew that he'd rather poke out his own eyeballs than hurt me (or any living thing for that matter). And it was playful anyhow.
I don't *like* being vulnerable. I don't like being reminded of being vulnerable. When I'm naked and in bed with someone, I'd prefer to feel empowered. Not in the sense that I dominate over the other partner - I couldn't stand that. I like two people being intensely excited by the other just being there and the power is in what they do to each other.
Am I nuts? Crazy? Unusual? Let me know what you think.
See, I'm... I'm funny on this issue. I think it's okay for women to have their fantasies. But there's a distinct list of things that I do not fantasise about, that I never will and find extremely disturbing. Those are:
- Abuse
- Rape
- Incest
- Myself being dominated.
Now, maybe it's been my upbringing with my overbearing father making me buck any sort of authority figure or dominance (armchair psychology ahoy) or the fact that I've been brought up by my staunch feminist of a mother, but nothing turns me off more than a male seeking dominance or control. There has only ever been ONE situation where being overpowered by a man in a sexual situation didn't bother me, and that's because I implicitly trusted the man and I knew that he'd rather poke out his own eyeballs than hurt me (or any living thing for that matter). And it was playful anyhow.
I don't *like* being vulnerable. I don't like being reminded of being vulnerable. When I'm naked and in bed with someone, I'd prefer to feel empowered. Not in the sense that I dominate over the other partner - I couldn't stand that. I like two people being intensely excited by the other just being there and the power is in what they do to each other.
Am I nuts? Crazy? Unusual? Let me know what you think.
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Date: 2007-03-08 11:56 am (UTC)This ad reminds me to one we got here, i was about tonic water, and had a girl with very few clothes saying 'yes, dad' LOL I hated the ad. Great quality of image, but the concept was shit. May be it was water for lesbians, no men was going to drink that just because of the girl in the add.
Anyways, I think I like D&G Italian Team better
http://pics.livejournal.com/berenicepotter/pic/000fwybg
http://pics.livejournal.com/berenicepotter/pic/000fxyd8
http://pics.livejournal.com/berenicepotter/pic/000fyy11
http://pics.livejournal.com/berenicepotter/pic/000fz1hq
See? More interesting lol Even though I like just 2 of those 5 guys. The hairy one with beard and the bald one xD
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Date: 2007-03-08 12:56 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2007-03-08 10:20 pm (UTC)