I give up.

[logansrogue]

Hey guys.

Well, I was trying to take part in being a 'heartless bitch', and going on the board, but I think I'm a little too - hmm. I don't know. They're frying me on there. Italics are me; Example:

Nacey, Nacey, Nacey.

Well regarding a woman as a bimbo because she cares more about looks than brains - what kind of view would you call that?

Define Bimbo. I'd say a bimbo is a woman who cares more about looks than brains.

Since you've been trying to impress us with how goddamn hot you are since your first post, rather than with how godamn brainy you are, I feel pretty justified in saying you fit the bill.

That's based on your words, sweetie. I have no idea what you look like, and I don't care either, before you break out the rock-chick snapshots.

I really wish I'd never have mentioned it since most people don't even connect 'bimbo' and myself unless I'm...around a cute fellow or something.

Oh, you're one of those . Next time you pull that crap do me a favour and rattle off a disclaimer for all the women who refuse to drop IQ points to get laid.

[That one really got to me; I'm like that around guys cause I'm actually very shy around men, particularly if they're attractive]

I'm a singer/songwriter

We know, we know. You've told us twelve times. You do know, don't you, that conforming to the industry stereotype of physical perfection is often a substitute for talent?

Nacey, I think you're a bimbo, a dimbulb and awfully dull (not to mention prissy-shit), and it's not because of how you look. To me you look like quite a lot of badly thought out rambling in Times New Roman.

Red

That made me cry. I think I'm still crying. It's so stupid - no, I'm stupid. I just simply can't talk to these people because no matter what I say it comes out sounding vain and stupid, and I hate those things about me. I work so hard to better myself, I guess it's one of my fears that all there is to me is this face and my legs and that scares me cause I'm not even that pretty for that to have any weight. It just turns me into the five year old girl that tried to make friends at school and dismally failed and nothing she could do could make it right. I'm at the point where I don't even want to do the pictures for their precious book any more, cause I simply don't believe in their extremist edicts. Some of their stuff makes sense but I don't believe in being insensitive to people's feelings in this world. I prefer to want to help people be as strong as they can be. I thought that was what they were about but I guess I was wrong.

And I figure perhaps I'm not as smart as I thought I was. That hurts cause being smart is really important to me.

Nancy.

Comments

Don't listen those assholes.

[azinazelle.livejournal.com]

Nancy, you're wonderful and I love everything about ya. Listen to your friends, we know you best and how very special you are. As for the heartless bitches ... they are gonna have a very lonely, cold and selfish life ahead of them.

*hugs*

[tylergrrls.livejournal.com]

Don't think I'm defending what she said about you sweetkins, cuz I'm not . . . but, well . . .

They're SUPPOSED to be bitches. They're TRYING to be bitches. I guess you just gotta kinda accept that. ;) The problem with blanket bitchiness in people is that they really are equal opportunity . . . and they'll hurt you if you give them the chance.

"Well, I was trying to take part in being a 'heartless bitch'" . . .

What did you think it meant to be a heartless bitch, baby? Just remember that whenever you try to be a heartless bitch ('taking part in being a heartless bitch') that . . . whoever you do it to feels the same way that you do now.

-Bree

Re: *hugs*

[tylergrrls.livejournal.com]

BUT I REALLY DO LOVE YOU, sweetie. If I didn't, I wouldn't have taken you to San Fran. ;)

-Bree

Re: *hugs*

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

I think my main problem is that I misunderstood what being a heartless-bitch was. I just thought they were overly sure of themselves but now I think they're just out to be cruel to make themselves feel better. I'd rather shoot myself in the foot before I treat anyone the way they treated me, and I think you know that. (I bloody hope so).

And of course I know you love me, you're my Diebie-kins ^_^

Hugs and thanks,
Nancy.
(Azina - you rock in so many ways).

Re: *hugs*

[fyrdrakken]

Not having seen any of the earlier posts to which "Red" was referring back to, I'm just guessing but maybe references to looking good and wanting to be a musician were upsetting some people who don't look anywhere *near* good or wish they themselves had some form of musical talent. Having just come out of reading a bunch of discussion on why some fans feel compelled to bash female characters who seem overly pretty and perfect, the idea of people retaining their high school traumas into adult life is very much at the forefront of my mind.

More to the point, I'm not grandly familiar with heartless-bitches.com, but I'd gather the group is full of women who who enjoy sharpening their claws on others. In an ideal world we'd only go postal on people who had done things to deserve it, but there are always going to be bullies who attack pretty much anyone who seems to be showing weakness. If you refer to yourself as being pretty good at something, you're indicating something that contributes to your sense of self-worth -- which is therefore a potential target for anyone who wants to drag you down.

I strongly suspect that anywhere called heartless-bitches.com is a place no one should venture who doesn't have an ironclad self-image and a full willingness to fight fire with napalm. I also suspect that you're a better person for *not* fitting in there.