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logansrogueHey everybody.
I have heard from T that he will not be going to Swancon anymore. So yes, I will be there this year.
I think keeping a dialogue open on conduct and security at future Swancons is a really great idea, one I am absolutely sure that WASFF and future committees will continue to pursue.
I also wanted to mention something that's been playing on both my conscience and my spirit today. I know a lot of people are angry about the situation, are angry on my behalf, and I'm very grateful for the show of support. However, we gotta be really careful to not cross a line. I don't doubt that at some point, some of you may come across the person that hurt me. It's inevitable in fandom in this city, especially since he has every right to go out and about with his business. He is not a convicted criminal. I don't want or condone people yelling at him, abusing him (either physically or emotionally), or threatening to do so in real life or on the internet, and certainly not in my name. Talking to him about your feelings on the matter is your own prerogative. I can't stop you from doing that. Getting angry online and saying shit isn't okay? That's also up to you. I can't say much about that since it's been my main line of defence in this situation, but I honestly had no other choice.
The problem is, in this sort of situation, it's counter-productive. His mental duress can cause lasting damage in both his rehabilitation and in his well-being. Not that I'm overly concerned about how happy he is on a personal level, but severe anguish would probably just serve to make him feel less in control, and we don't want that.
It also might tread close to harrassment, so we have to be careful not to do anything that might get me in trouble legally. More importantly, perhaps most importantly, it would be wrong. I strongly believe in justice, and there's no justice in mob tactics.
Just know that right now, I'm coming from a place of fear. Fear of crossing certain lines, fear of what might happen to me if things get out of hand, fear of what might happen to other people if things get crazy.
Yes. The guy that hurt me is a horrible, horrible coward and a broken person. In the end, however, I wish him no ill will. I wish him a life of recovery with his family. I wish him to leave me alone, forever, and to let me do what I gotta with my career (being artistic and so forth). Now that this Swancon mess is sorted out, it'll be the end of this particular anxiety in this situation.
I feel bad that this has taken the public turn that it has, but I really felt I had no other choice. I could not in all good conscience silently not go to Swancon. It's just not who I am, and in my own struggle for control of my life and control of my space, I decided to fight this. Believe me when I tell you it's with great reticence and fear. I hate to have to do this. I wished it would all go away. I just wanted to be able to look forward to Swancon and go, like every other person.
I can do that now.
I have heard from T that he will not be going to Swancon anymore. So yes, I will be there this year.
I think keeping a dialogue open on conduct and security at future Swancons is a really great idea, one I am absolutely sure that WASFF and future committees will continue to pursue.
I also wanted to mention something that's been playing on both my conscience and my spirit today. I know a lot of people are angry about the situation, are angry on my behalf, and I'm very grateful for the show of support. However, we gotta be really careful to not cross a line. I don't doubt that at some point, some of you may come across the person that hurt me. It's inevitable in fandom in this city, especially since he has every right to go out and about with his business. He is not a convicted criminal. I don't want or condone people yelling at him, abusing him (either physically or emotionally), or threatening to do so in real life or on the internet, and certainly not in my name. Talking to him about your feelings on the matter is your own prerogative. I can't stop you from doing that. Getting angry online and saying shit isn't okay? That's also up to you. I can't say much about that since it's been my main line of defence in this situation, but I honestly had no other choice.
The problem is, in this sort of situation, it's counter-productive. His mental duress can cause lasting damage in both his rehabilitation and in his well-being. Not that I'm overly concerned about how happy he is on a personal level, but severe anguish would probably just serve to make him feel less in control, and we don't want that.
It also might tread close to harrassment, so we have to be careful not to do anything that might get me in trouble legally. More importantly, perhaps most importantly, it would be wrong. I strongly believe in justice, and there's no justice in mob tactics.
Just know that right now, I'm coming from a place of fear. Fear of crossing certain lines, fear of what might happen to me if things get out of hand, fear of what might happen to other people if things get crazy.
Yes. The guy that hurt me is a horrible, horrible coward and a broken person. In the end, however, I wish him no ill will. I wish him a life of recovery with his family. I wish him to leave me alone, forever, and to let me do what I gotta with my career (being artistic and so forth). Now that this Swancon mess is sorted out, it'll be the end of this particular anxiety in this situation.
I feel bad that this has taken the public turn that it has, but I really felt I had no other choice. I could not in all good conscience silently not go to Swancon. It's just not who I am, and in my own struggle for control of my life and control of my space, I decided to fight this. Believe me when I tell you it's with great reticence and fear. I hate to have to do this. I wished it would all go away. I just wanted to be able to look forward to Swancon and go, like every other person.
I can do that now.
