They had a bunch of suggestions, including "have you tried reasoning with him?" and "have you tried laying down boundaries?" Which is what I've been doing for forever, and it hasn't worked! Now that I've done that - well, he's been MUCH better behaved. He even came to me and admitted he'd fucked up in the past. He didn't take total responsibility, and even if he did it wouldn't really matter because it's too late at this point, it would make things less unpleasant for me but they certainly wouldn't fix anything.
Their other suggestion was leaving him, but having been homeless before, that's not exactly what I'd call an option.
I'm working with a few friends to get out, we've set a date for something to happen - either me leaving or planning to or something. I don't really talk about my plans with them a lot because I think a lot of people wouldn't really get it. But at any rate, leaving is not a short term option.
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Date: 2010-02-03 09:22 am (UTC)Their other suggestion was leaving him, but having been homeless before, that's not exactly what I'd call an option.
I'm working with a few friends to get out, we've set a date for something to happen - either me leaving or planning to or something. I don't really talk about my plans with them a lot because I think a lot of people wouldn't really get it. But at any rate, leaving is not a short term option.