I find it really interesting that you've identified your kinks and the line where you feel 'squicked', and then tried to understand it rather than justify it like so many people tend to. It's very admirable that you own your kinks but are aware and unashamed to speak of why they might not be healthy.
I agree with you, though. Between two consenting adults, damn near any act that brings them pleasure is fine by me, as long as nobody is seriously hurt.
See, I have kinky fantasies but they're always imagined ones and I'd never act them out. There is only one kind of person I would ever let myself be dominated by - an attractive woman. There was this one woman I met at a racy party and I let her do things to me I've never let anyone do. It was intensely erotic yet I know that I would never, ever have let her do those things if she'd been a man. Don't ask me why. My kinky fantasies go the same way - Xena/Callisto, for instance. Their aggression turns to sex, but both of them are always enjoying it. The point, though, is that I'm never the one in the situation. It's always me *watching* it, and I think that's rather telling of my psychology.
I wouldn't say non-incest slash or lesbian fiction would be unhealthy to indulge in. But it is true that a chunk of fic authors (not all) might benefit on focusing on their real-life relationships a bit more! :D
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dancing_serpent
Re: Well, you asked!
Date: 2007-03-08 10:41 pm (UTC)I agree with you, though. Between two consenting adults, damn near any act that brings them pleasure is fine by me, as long as nobody is seriously hurt.
See, I have kinky fantasies but they're always imagined ones and I'd never act them out. There is only one kind of person I would ever let myself be dominated by - an attractive woman. There was this one woman I met at a racy party and I let her do things to me I've never let anyone do. It was intensely erotic yet I know that I would never, ever have let her do those things if she'd been a man. Don't ask me why. My kinky fantasies go the same way - Xena/Callisto, for instance. Their aggression turns to sex, but both of them are always enjoying it. The point, though, is that I'm never the one in the situation. It's always me *watching* it, and I think that's rather telling of my psychology.
I wouldn't say non-incest slash or lesbian fiction would be unhealthy to indulge in. But it is true that a chunk of fic authors (not all) might benefit on focusing on their real-life relationships a bit more! :D