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Jan. 10th, 2007
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A thought-changing article.
Jan. 10th, 2007 11:19 pmEvery now and again I read something that alters my consciousness, that changes how I view my life on a fundamental level. That sounds pretty heavy but hey - sometimes I'm a deep girl.
This blog discusses the concept of 'consent' and Third Wave Feminism.
They bring up some really full-on points that I'd never really thought of, and realised that, for all these years, I'd been taking power *away* from myself. I've been submissive without even realising it. I know, me, Nancy, submissive?
But every time I thought myself something less for *not* having the serious relationship, every time I find myself in the dumps, pouting and relating to Bridget Jones, considering certain men and thinking, "Well, I can put up with this personality trait" and knowing its incompatibility, I was considering a 'trade-off' rather than something I deserved, and I was being sexist to *myself*.
It's opened my eyes to certian behaviours and negative thought-patterns that I'd been inflicting upon myself for years, and I've felt something click into place. Perhaps I've been taking myself for granted all these years. I've assumed that I have no power in the dating game, that I'm the one at fault when it falls through and I'm the reason why things go wrong. It's silly, I know, but this article was a catalyst for a train of thought that kind of made me look at things differently. Which is so fucking COOL.
Anyway, I have to go to bed and take some pills before that. I also have a story that's been dogging me, and this new thought will actually help me with it hugely. Yay!
(I blame the tone of this post on Frank Herbert. I've been reading through the Dune series and you know how deep those can get sometimes).
This blog discusses the concept of 'consent' and Third Wave Feminism.
They bring up some really full-on points that I'd never really thought of, and realised that, for all these years, I'd been taking power *away* from myself. I've been submissive without even realising it. I know, me, Nancy, submissive?
But every time I thought myself something less for *not* having the serious relationship, every time I find myself in the dumps, pouting and relating to Bridget Jones, considering certain men and thinking, "Well, I can put up with this personality trait" and knowing its incompatibility, I was considering a 'trade-off' rather than something I deserved, and I was being sexist to *myself*.
It's opened my eyes to certian behaviours and negative thought-patterns that I'd been inflicting upon myself for years, and I've felt something click into place. Perhaps I've been taking myself for granted all these years. I've assumed that I have no power in the dating game, that I'm the one at fault when it falls through and I'm the reason why things go wrong. It's silly, I know, but this article was a catalyst for a train of thought that kind of made me look at things differently. Which is so fucking COOL.
Anyway, I have to go to bed and take some pills before that. I also have a story that's been dogging me, and this new thought will actually help me with it hugely. Yay!
(I blame the tone of this post on Frank Herbert. I've been reading through the Dune series and you know how deep those can get sometimes).
