I understand where you're coming from and I can even see the line of your reasoning. I just can't agree that a viable solution is to drop a word from vocabulary every time someone expresses offense at it. If I use a word someone doesn't know or like, they can ask and I'll explain the meaning or origin, or if I don't know and find out it does have offensive origins sufficient to drop its use, I will. As for the written word, if you're holding a book or paper, chances are you have access to a $4 pocket dictionary or a library, where they are free. The Internet has reputable dictionary and etymology sites if you can afford to be online reading or go to a library to do so (again, free reference books).

If you're referring to non-English speakers, then my part on the conversation is moot, because I certainly wouldn't expect speakers of Swahili or German to drop words that I don't understand simply because I don't know rheir origins - or meaning.

However, all you're advocating is personal choice to regulate one's own word use, and I am all for that freedom and commend you for having a philosophy that you've also given thought and effort to developing. Not everybody does.