Thanks for putting all that so well :) I've had a super big lightbulb moment reading through that thread and other associated stuff this evening.

This: "one should keep their frustrations focused where they belong. Children do not choose the way society treats them," together with the reiteration that one person's rights end where another's begin (shamefully, not something I'd ever thought far enough to apply to children), really helped coalesce all my thoughts into something productive.

So thankyou. Thankyou lots and lots and lots.