Well, it's started.

[logansrogue]

This douchewad is now living on the streets.

He's refused to listen to any of his criticism if it blows holes in his great idea. He has no idea what he's in for, and he has no idea what damage he might do. He also presumes to do the job of helping homeless people better than those that are volunteering time and money presently. He says he's gotten radio interviews out of this, and that makes me want to barf chunks.

Really, the guy is a fucking idiot.

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[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

Because of this:

http://holly-go-noor.livejournal.com/141798.html

I thought perhaps I shouldn't post it, but then again, I really didn't do anything wrong. So basically they didn't like it and said a bunch of inflammatory, insulting shit to me (that I really think the believe was helpful,which almost made it worse), and called me names (but are now claiming they weren't...but they were), and I told them to go screw themselves. :D

And that's my entry about being banned:

http://holly-go-noor.livejournal.com/141994.html

It sucks, but there WERE people on my side. And I'm just to the point where if people are going to judge and give advice that is nothing short of insane, then my relationship with them isn't serving me well, so it's for the best. They told me it was a 30 day "cooling off" period, but it's been a week since I posted and I still don't feel any differently. *shrug*

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

Okay, okay, let me get this straight. You're in a marriage where your husband was assaulting you (groping you against your will), chasing you when you were scared, and when you finally fought back, and hit him (with a slap, an itty bitty slap for God's sakes), the comm attacked you, guilt tripped you and banned you for talking about it?

What the fuck?!

[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

And for "invalidating" members because when they jumped on me for it I said, "Oh I thought this was a survivor community". Because apparently nobody was smart enough to realize that I meant that they shouldn't judge, and instead thought that I was saying they were imposters, or something.

Yeah, it was stupid.

But there's been a lot of change around and in me lately and I'm discovering that most people liked me more when I was a doormat. O.o

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I know what you mean. You gotta do what you can to survive. If some people don't like that, well, it's not their life to deal with.

[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I told them off in an email. I was polite but basically told them to shove it. I've been sort of evaluating my feelings about it and what I did every day for the last week, and I'm even more convinced it was the right thing to do now. In the end, that's really the only thing I need to live with! :)

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

He wasn't stopping, was he? He kept hurting you. I guess it could be argued that you should have just left him, but you felt threatened, and in that situation, you probably weren't thinking all that straight. A person snaps under constant abuse.

[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

They had a bunch of suggestions, including "have you tried reasoning with him?" and "have you tried laying down boundaries?" Which is what I've been doing for forever, and it hasn't worked! Now that I've done that - well, he's been MUCH better behaved. He even came to me and admitted he'd fucked up in the past. He didn't take total responsibility, and even if he did it wouldn't really matter because it's too late at this point, it would make things less unpleasant for me but they certainly wouldn't fix anything.

Their other suggestion was leaving him, but having been homeless before, that's not exactly what I'd call an option.

I'm working with a few friends to get out, we've set a date for something to happen - either me leaving or planning to or something. I don't really talk about my plans with them a lot because I think a lot of people wouldn't really get it. But at any rate, leaving is not a short term option.

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

See, if you had options, you'd use them. You're not a silly person.

Don't feel bad for how you've coped with the situation. You're doing what you can to maintain your space around an abusive person, so really, you're just surviving.

Gotta go. I'm here if you need to talk.

[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

Thanks. *hugs*

[logansrogue.livejournal.com]

No problems! Sorry about the sudden end to the comment there - Mum needed me to do something. LOL!

[holly-go-noor.livejournal.com]

Ha! No problem. You are allowed to have a life outside of the intarwebz. :p