You're only a victim if you call yourself that? YOU'RE ONLY A VICTIM IF YOU CALL YOURSELF THAT??????? WHAT THE FLYING MONKEY FUCKKKK!!???!?!?!?!?!?!
On the one hand, warning of a potential rapist so that other women will keep their guard up, on the other hand protect the integrity of said potential rapist because it might in some way effect one more person. Yeah, I'm going to have to go with the "better for the many over the few". Damn you soap operas with your dirty women faking rapes so that society gets it ingrained that all rape cases are in this mysterious grey area where it might be something that you "should just get over" and not give the "accused" a potential hell.
Regretting is one thing, it is not the same as taking the consequences of your actions, you end up doing both if you are anything worth having a name. His lj-username being out in the open? Oh noes! It's almost as bad as having his real name out? Does this person expect you to "almost" care? When companies google names, I'm hard pressed to think they would then go to the trouble googling the username associated with the RL name, if a clear association exists or not. Was he intoxicated? In any way bereft of his senses that could clear him from accepting responsibility? Was he provoked by you or anyone else? No, at least not as I gather from the way you told it, and your story didn't leave any swingroom for any of that, and this is not a thing I can see or imagine you lie about. If there are any people I can imagine fabricating such a story, I hope I never meet them. So yeah, consequences follow on your actions, and regrets follow you if you have a conscience. They're not the same thing just because their origin's the same.
Originally this comment was just supposed to be one paragraph long.
On the one hand, warning of a potential rapist so that other women will keep their guard up, on the other hand protect the integrity of said potential rapist because it might in some way effect one more person. Yeah, I'm going to have to go with the "better for the many over the few". Damn you soap operas with your dirty women faking rapes so that society gets it ingrained that all rape cases are in this mysterious grey area where it might be something that you "should just get over" and not give the "accused" a potential hell.
Regretting is one thing, it is not the same as taking the consequences of your actions, you end up doing both if you are anything worth having a name. His lj-username being out in the open? Oh noes! It's almost as bad as having his real name out? Does this person expect you to "almost" care? When companies google names, I'm hard pressed to think they would then go to the trouble googling the username associated with the RL name, if a clear association exists or not. Was he intoxicated? In any way bereft of his senses that could clear him from accepting responsibility? Was he provoked by you or anyone else? No, at least not as I gather from the way you told it, and your story didn't leave any swingroom for any of that, and this is not a thing I can see or imagine you lie about. If there are any people I can imagine fabricating such a story, I hope I never meet them. So yeah, consequences follow on your actions, and regrets follow you if you have a conscience. They're not the same thing just because their origin's the same.
*hugs for you* *and some saffran buns*