(blink) (blink) Dude, if anything, I applaud your courage in coming forward and being willing to admit what happened to you, as angry and hurt and ashamed as the experience must have made you feel. Too many women stay silent, particularly because "He has issues" or "He didn't mean it" or "It wasn't that much, we didn't have actual sex..." Just because he didn't throw you down on the ground, rape you, and leave you bleeding and doesn't mean that he didn't knowingly choose to violate you.

At the risk of possibly garnering TMI...is this kowren his girlfriend or his sister or something? If she is, her determination to defend him by tearing you down makes some weird kind of sense. Though it makes me sad that she'd excuse him by blaming you for telling the truth.

So she's angry that your choice to expose his actions is apparently affecting her life in some fashion. My answer to that is frankly a blunt: "It wouldn't affect you at all if he hadn't fucking done it in the first place." She needs to put the blame where it belongs.