FWIW - I understand and respect people that have submissive (or dominance) fantasies, and have quite a few friends who (either recreationally or professionally) are into acting those fantasies, and I have no problem with it. Fantasy is fantasy, most people are smart enough to tell the difference - and a lot of the time, peoples sexual fantasies are about acting the opposite to the way they do in general life. Its a cliche but its true that many (not all) people who are into subbing are people with important, dominant jobs, and many doms are people with strong personalities but who do not feel empowered with their life situation.

And I can sometimes see the sexual attraction myself, though not always.

But really, I'm with you, engaging with someone sexually as an equal is far more exciting to me. A bit of playful back and forth is great, but a willing and enthusiastic equal much better than a slave or a master.