I just wanted to say what I thought of the ad since I didn't comment over on ONTD because my comment would have been on like the fifth page of comments and no one would have read it.
I also didn't read the comments about women saying it was their sexual fantasy, but yeah, apparently the rape fantasy is quite common. I don't think that women are wishing for rape in general, because it's a violating and degrading thing, but I think it's more the case that they wish someone they are attracted to (but can't necessarily express that attraction to) would just have sex with them, without verbal consent from the woman. I think it's conceived as a "rape" fantasy just because the woman didn't verbally discuss the desire with the person of her fantasy and the suddenness of it makes it almost seem like it wasn't consensual, but it would be consensual. I've heard of a few females having rape fantasies about a male colleague in the workplace, just because it might be inappropriate to express their desire or attraction but they would still like to have sex with that man and because it may not be an issue that can be discussed, they might just wish it would happen without it being their responsibility, i.e. the man initiated sex without verbal consent.
As for the aspect of being submissive, I don't think it's necessarily about feeling exposed or vulnerable. I think it's about someone else being in control and using you (in a way that is enjoyable to both of you) to fulfill their desires. It could make a woman feel very empowered if she feels like she can let her partner take control and do whatever is necessary to fulfill their desires, because she has the power to allow that to happen, and she feels secure enough in the relationship to let that happen. It's about her being a method through which the other person can fulfill their desires, and it would be an empowering thing to know that you are the essential component of the fulfillment of your partner's desires.
Plus it's the power of the unknown which can be a highly arousing factor; if someone relinquishes control to someone else, it could be very exciting not knowing what's going to happen next and knowing that you're not in control of it. Of course, again, it would have to be a secure relationship with a lot of trust, but if it was that sort of relationship, the element of the unknown could easily lead to heightened arousal.
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I also didn't read the comments about women saying it was their sexual fantasy, but yeah, apparently the rape fantasy is quite common. I don't think that women are wishing for rape in general, because it's a violating and degrading thing, but I think it's more the case that they wish someone they are attracted to (but can't necessarily express that attraction to) would just have sex with them, without verbal consent from the woman. I think it's conceived as a "rape" fantasy just because the woman didn't verbally discuss the desire with the person of her fantasy and the suddenness of it makes it almost seem like it wasn't consensual, but it would be consensual. I've heard of a few females having rape fantasies about a male colleague in the workplace, just because it might be inappropriate to express their desire or attraction but they would still like to have sex with that man and because it may not be an issue that can be discussed, they might just wish it would happen without it being their responsibility, i.e. the man initiated sex without verbal consent.
As for the aspect of being submissive, I don't think it's necessarily about feeling exposed or vulnerable. I think it's about someone else being in control and using you (in a way that is enjoyable to both of you) to fulfill their desires. It could make a woman feel very empowered if she feels like she can let her partner take control and do whatever is necessary to fulfill their desires, because she has the power to allow that to happen, and she feels secure enough in the relationship to let that happen. It's about her being a method through which the other person can fulfill their desires, and it would be an empowering thing to know that you are the essential component of the fulfillment of your partner's desires.
Plus it's the power of the unknown which can be a highly arousing factor; if someone relinquishes control to someone else, it could be very exciting not knowing what's going to happen next and knowing that you're not in control of it. Of course, again, it would have to be a secure relationship with a lot of trust, but if it was that sort of relationship, the element of the unknown could easily lead to heightened arousal.