I think the closest I've ever come to writing that sort of thing is with either the Ares/Xena pairing and the Logan/Rogue pairing. And even then the women were being respected, even though they were with someone that could overpower them. First, Ares wouldn't risk that sort of bullshit cause, you know - it's Ares! Secondly, Logan is generally the kind of guy to be hyper-protective and possessive rather than aggressive and controlling.

But I'm with you. No, no turn on for me.